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Sairamalakshmi

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Engaging kids
« on: February 13, 2013, 12:37:18 AM »
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Namaskaram dwarakanath Garu and Guru bandhus

My son is 18 months old. I would like to know the  good methods to engage him at home. As it is too cold outside, I am not able to take him out.
I read books to him, sit near him while he plays. But he still feels bored and gets frustrated at times.

           In the evening I play tv for him for some time. But I don't want him to get addicted to tv.How good or how bad
is it to play tv for kids?

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Re: Engaging kids
« Reply #1 on: February 13, 2013, 12:48:22 AM »
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SaiRamaLakshmi garu,

TV is really bad for kids, it decreases their attention span and also increases their chance of becoming myopic in the future. Babugaru never recommended TV.

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Re: Engaging kids
« Reply #2 on: February 13, 2013, 01:27:06 AM »
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This is something I wrote a long time ago in the pillala pempakam thread which got sidetracked and which needs completion..

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"Watching TV is a dissipation of energies. The audio-visual impact of the medium is far too great. It creates lasting impressions. It preaches without allowing for questions. It makes the mind dull and makes it soft. It provides instant gratification, and promotes forgetting responsibilities. It shoves on peoples minds what ever that happens to be, and its not selective in what is being pushed at the people. It makes the body lazy, and develops tendencies of relaxation through laze, rather than relaxation through work and thinking and completion. It dishes out false values, false emotions, etc. towards the viewers, while making them oblivious of their worlds, their emotions, relationships, problems and responsibilities, thus creating artificiality. It becomes an addiction. And, all in all, it robs the country of valuable man-hours of its citizen. Its an unnecessary luxury, a disturbing indulgence. True that it COULD be a wonderful medium when used properly, but the fact that it IS not. The actors are fake, the emotions they show are fake, news items selected for the 'dramatic' and advertisements aim at selling things that are 'unnecessary'. All in all, its a vain venture the nation and individual looses out resources of time, money, mind, relationships and individuality. It kills the spirit of 'seeking' and moulds a person to accept what is dished out. Imagine a person who cries for false emotions, a person who sees the 'wild' only 'virtually' and is happy about it. Image the person who sees places and peoples of the world, but only in his house without interaction. Imagine being satisfied by all that, nay, being addicted by all that. The value of the fresh breeze of high mountains, the freshness of the dews, the solitudes of caves, the thrill of watching 'life', the education of actually being in various environments and interactions, all of them are lost slowly, if not suddenly. And all of it so that some people can make money out of such fateful indulgence and weakness of the multitudes."

I still stand by this. Please go through the pillala pempakam thread, and if you find something not yet discussed, please do ask in that thread. I would love to continue it.

For an 18 month old kid, the world is a place of wonder. It is a place of amazement. I wonder why he is bored. Are you making him play at the same place with the same toys? Has he played with vegetables yet?  Did he play in the kitchen cupboard? Did he play throwing beads or rice all around and seeing them fall and make patters? Did you surprise him with the articulation that your hands are capable of? By just wiggling your own fingers, making shapes with them (he cannot make them himself yet.. its an amazement for him if you do it!)  Kids of that age have tremendous energy. its like development of teeth. It is like the itching you get when your teeth are growing. You are supposed to use them and make them strong as they grow and so if you dont bite into something, the teeth itch! Similarly, for kids, if the muscles (including the brain and the eyes) are not engaged fully, it creates a vaccum.. there remains unfulfilment. Usually such lack of fulfillment in one direction or the other is what we call 'frustration'. Kids do not have frustration like we do. Our frustration comes from expectation. Theirs comes from a lack of outlet.

Think creatively. Let him play with pillows. Let him play with real objects (ofcourse only those that are not dangerous for him) rather than specific objects that we confusedly call 'toys'. Let him see the world! And there is a huge world even in a single room!

I used to play with japamaala (that was one of the 'toys' for me). Did you try that with your kid? Did you show him that to move any object you can push it directly or push it with some other object? There are endless possibilities!

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« Last Edit: February 13, 2013, 01:41:03 AM by Dwarakanath »

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Re: Engaging kids
« Reply #3 on: February 13, 2013, 02:09:29 PM »
Thanks for the very nice reply

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Re: Engaging kids
« Reply #4 on: February 13, 2013, 03:46:09 PM »
Jai Sai Master.

We totally agree and trying our best to move away from TV. It is our Parents time and attention that matters a lot. TV is an escape from our attention. When we dont have time and to keep our son quiet, TV is the biggest thing we look at usually. It is like a magic box to deviate. Failed many times but see lot of progress now after thinking firmly about the alternatives.

We will share few we have been trying in the next few days.

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Re: Engaging kids
« Reply #5 on: February 14, 2013, 12:43:06 AM »
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Thanks for the direction and reply Dwarakanath Garu. I completely understood and agree with you regarding the tv. Though I give him some real objects , I restrict him in couple of areas.For example, he likes to pull out the books from book case and sit in between them . Sometimes I allow him but sometimes I don't allow him in the name of discipline. I will go through the Pillala Pempakam thread and post further questions.
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 It is our Parents time and attention that matters a lot. TV is an escape from our attention.
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That's true UttamPallavi garu. When I pay attention to him he is least bothered about watching tv.It's our responsibility to be creative and energetic.

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